Karoline Barwinski

How reframing my communication helps me feel lighter

Karoline Barwinski
How reframing my communication helps me feel lighter

"I need to pump!" 

In the midst of a thoughtful and somewhat heavy conversation with my husband recently, I all of a sudden blurted out "I need to pump!"  Rafael was with his grandparents and I had just realized I hadn't yet pumped my breastmilk.  Immediately, Aran caught me, and said "Try saying "I want to pump" and see how that feels and how nicer it sounds."  

At first I was slightly annoyed. After all, I DID need to pump. But, the truth was that the words I chose had a one kind of energy and the words he asked me to choose instead, had another.

When I said "I want to pump right now," calmly and compassionately, I felt lighter.  It's a simple reframe with a powerful punch.  The former felt urgent, stressful, obligatory.  The latter felt like a joyful choice.  After all, I am so grateful for being able to breastfeed and for producing enough breastmilk.  It's been over a year now and I want to keep going.  And I know it will only be sustainable if the mindset remains supportive of this beautiful gift I keep wanting to offer my child.  

I love simple ways to bring more lightness and love into my days and lately I've been pondering the effect that the words I choose and speak aloud have on others, and myself. 

I'm grateful to my husband for being patient and letting me know if the words I speak or the tone I use don't create a positive vibe.  But, these patterns of reacting and thinking are so deeply engrained that I know it's not an overnight fix.  It will take time to disassociate my reactions from my past experiences and environment and develop new ones that serve me and my life right now... adding more lightness to my life and the life experience of those around me.  

Communication with yourself and those around you is fundamental to happiness and a peaceful existence.  As such I want to help you bring more lightness to your own life and to your interactions with those closest to you who want you to shine your light.